Even in our oldest most brutal sports there is room for tenderness, moments of softness and affection. The video Surrender shows a compilation of those moments set to the slowed down beats of a big band at Salón Los Angeles in Mexico City. The drunken tunes float over the athletes dancing around in their silk robes, look each other deeply in the eyes, and sway in a close and sweaty embrace.
In a time so focused on being the champion, on defeating the other it’s no wonder we burnout trying to succeed at all costs. We reach the end goals only to move on to the next, just like in boxing where you train to the max for the match and then if you win you pick your next opponent to tackle and continue the cycle. There is more to life than winning - as Audre Lorde suggests in her speech Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power* “For the erotic is not a question only of what we do; it is a question of how acutely and fully we can feel in the doing.” To live our most impassioned fully erotically charged lives, let’s give up fighting for success and surrender to intimacy.